Like this…or more like that? If you’re wondering what women really like in bed, read on. We’re going to tell you.
That we know their anatomy
And no, we didn’t say body! To know someone’s body, their erogenous zones and hidden recesses, all this takes time. Knowing the female anatomy is another thing again. It’s knowing, for example, that the clitoris is not just a little spot but that it extends deep inside the body and surrounds the vagina. Now that we know that, we can update our mental notes and try penetration differently, spending more time arousing the vaginal walls to stimulate the clitoris.
That we forget back-and-forth
While penetration has its obvious charms, it has to be said that pneumatic drill-style sex is slightly tedious (not to say ineffective). Women like caresses, pauses, cunnilingus and fingers. In short, it’s not all about the penis. So, yes to penetration, but don’t forget the rest: the foreplay, sweet nothings and moments of calm…
That we dare to give cunnilingus
What most resembles fellatio? Cunnilingus, of course. Let’s be honest, fellatio is often there during sex, and sometimes it IS sex. So why wouldn’t cunnilingus be there too, either during foreplay or between penetrations. Why wouldn’t it be given in different positions (under the desk, maybe?) Let’s bring cunnilingus back to sex.
That we slightly dominate them
Domination is a fairly widespread fantasy. But even if women might like it too, it isn’t necessary to do it every time. Varying the pleasure is essential, so from time to time, you can choose to take the lead. While remaining gentle, look after your partner, steer the way, direct her and guide her.
That we listen to them
Sex takes two and sharing is important. Being attentive to your partner’s reactions is indispensable. If she is breathing more and more deeply and quickly, there is a good chance that she is loving what you are doing, in which case, you know you are on the right track. Alternatively, if her body becomes tense or strained, it is a big stop. It is by listening to our partner that we’ll both get up to seventh heaven.
That we think about their breasts
The chest is a large erogenous zone, so why do we only caress it at the beginning? Breasts are a big source of pleasure, so don’t forget them. They are normally accessible in lots of positions. Admittedly, doggie-style, you’d need to have very long arms, but in missionary, with her on top or spooning, to give just a few examples, there are no excuses.
That we bring them to orgasm
Careful! What we are not saying is that it is absolutely necessary to make a woman orgasm. It mustn’t become an obsession and pleasure is (also) found on the journey there. The message we actually want to give you is different: what women like (and ask for, which is normal) is that their partner looks after them once he has come. Let’s be clear: it’s not because you have finished that your partner doesn’t deserve her turn. And yes, even if you do now want to sleep.