The IFOP polling institute conducted a major survey for Marc Dorcel at the beginning of 2017 on the French and sex...
3 ways to make love... without touching
Non-reciprocal masturbation, a great source of excitement
During lovemaking, we caress each other: this is called reciprocal masturbation. Our hands run over our partner's body, while his or her hands run over ours. For a change, let's dare to have non-reciprocal masturbation. In other words: each one takes care of himself. I caress myself, you caress yourself. What does this change? Several things: we offer ourselves a more direct and "controlled" pleasure (we know how to make ourselves feel good, we also know how to slow down so as not to cum too quickly), we take advantage of "seeing ourselves in full" (usually, it's a bit more complex), and we let a feeling of positive frustration rise. Since we really want to touch each other but the rules of the game forbid it, the excitement is at its peak. Okay, after a while, you're allowed to break down and eat each other up. The reunion will be all the more torrid.
Sex toys, caressing without cheating
Not touching each other does not prevent the use of sex toys, quite the contrary. Once again, you are allowed to use your hands (because handling a sextoy with your feet has never been better) but no finger-vulva or finger-penis contact is allowed. We can therefore play with a clitoral stimulator, a vibrator dedicated to vaginal pleasure or even an anal plug. Of course, the whole body is entitled to its happiness: because sex toys are vibrating, they can be used on the nipples, the kidneys, and why not the mouth? Finally, we're thinking of sextoys for couples: one handles the remote control and the other lets himself go to the vibrations he can't control. Nothing to complain about: in this configuration, distance is kept. No one will come and say that we cheated (even if it's nobody's business).
The virtual, a new field to invest in
Making love without touching is also a reminder that virtual sex is not a cheap pleasure. Just because we use naughty messages, suggestive photos or a non-pixelated camera, doesn't mean we're not sharing a sexual relationship. So we say yes to "connected" sex and to media that are worth it. If there's a distance between you and me due to holidays, work or just life, and whether this distance is the subject of an hour or a week, we reinvent sex in writing, or via Skype or FaceTime. One thing's for sure, you can't cross the screen (although yes, you'd love to), but you can get off on it. Between sweet words and masturbation, the pleasure is there and we say to ourselves that we were right to throw away our prejudices: no, virtual sex is not reserved for single people, young people or people in need. It is a way like any other to make love... without touching.