How do you let go during cunnilingus?

Although cunnilingus is an erotic act and a source of pleasure, not all women enjoy it. It all depends on the partner, the moment, your vision of the practice and your complexes... So how do you let go and enjoy? Here's some advice.

Feeling clean

Silly to say, but far from absurd. Many women fear cunnilingus for fear of not smelling nice, of being "a bit dirty" or sweaty. We live in a society that's constantly on the hunt for hair and bad smells, so it's easy to freak out when it's not even been three minutes since we last showered. The best solution, when you can't take a casual shower before sex (and you really want to), is to drag your partner into the bathroom. Underwater, the pleasure is different, more sensual, and soap is never far away. You can even ask your partner to soap your sex for foreplay...

Dare the dark!

Another complex: light that's a little too bright! We often put ourselves in our partner's shoes and visualize our sex in close-up (not a pretty sight, we tell ourselves). But all sexes are beautiful. Sight is a sense that never fails to stimulate sexual desire during lovemaking. So, if you don't want your partner to slide his nose between your legs, eyes wide open on your private parts, turning off the light is the first step towards surrender. A small candle will suffice, for a subdued atmosphere! And if you're already in the bathroom as you read this, there's nothing to stop you washing in the dark, with a trickle of light from the next room.

Thinking about yourself

It's a good idea to awaken a little selfishness before indulging in any kind of sexual practice. Often, we don't take full advantage of it, as if it were unwelcome, as if we didn't deserve the attention... Wrong. Let's dare to savor these few minutes of bliss and think of ourselves, just ourselves, of how good it feels, of that man caressing our sex with his tongue or a stranger we've been fantasizing about for ages... We're free to travel.

Guiding your partner

What if we thought we weren't into cunnilingus, but it's only a few blunders on the part of our partner that keep us from pleasure? We can guide him! As long as we don't redirect him, he'll think he's doing the right thing for us. But there's no shame in not liking the way he does it - it doesn't call into question our love for him. So, with both hands free, we can put his head back, touch our sex to spread our lips differently, and so on.

Don't wait for a miracle

If there's one common mistake we already make with orgasm, it's to think about the result, forgetting to concentrate on what's most important: our sensations! During cunnilingus, there's no point in crossing your fingers and repeating "I hope it does it! By trying so hard to enjoy it, we put ourselves under pressure and miss out on the most pleasurable part. It's by clearing your mind and focusing on what you're feeling, second after second, that you'll get your kicks by surprise!