What are the secrets of a satisfying sex life? How do we have fun and take full advantage of the moments that we share together? Here are five tips which will tell you the answers.
I don’t seek orgasm at all costs
If you’re only thinking about your orgasm, your brain is only concentrating on the end result. However, lots of things are happening along the way: their skin against yours, their hands against your thighs, their breath between your legs… Make the most of the journey, it’s better! By living in the present moment, without looking to the far-off distance, you give yourself more chance of reaching orgasm. It will be more surprising and stronger, thanks to the thousand-and-one sensations you’ve experienced along the way.
I don’t fake it
You’re gifted at pretending. When it’s not the right evening, you pretend that it is, and when their touch isn’t doing it for you, you pretend that it’s sweeping you away. That way, you don’t upset your partner and everybody is happy. Wrong!
It’s better to say what you feel. Guide your partner towards what you really want. Without feeling like a school mistress, suggest lightly the missionary, because you’re in the mood for missionary. Guide their hands on your clitoris when it’s not quite right, and suggest switching off the light if you really feel like it.
It’s not a competition
You’re not there to make love ten times a week and beat the national average, nor to go through ten positions in fifteen minutes because that’s what they do in porn films. Sex is fulfilling when you do it your way, without counting, without timing and without comparing yourself to others. So who cares if the neighbours make the building shake every evening, if once a month is what is good for you.
I don’t rely only on what I already know
You often say to yourself that you’ve done it all and that your sexuality has become routine. Perhaps it’s true, and sex is each time like the last. But there are still so many things to discover: a new position, a new toy, a new place, a new erogenous zone… So get going! We promise new and never-before-experienced sensations!
I don’t let myself get distracted by daily life
Sex is a moment for sharing and relaxation, but it’s true that when you’ve had a tough day, rather than enjoying having sex, you tend to be distracted by your worries: you’ve got to do the food shopping, pay the bills or take the bins out. Of course you do, but you don’t have to think about it while you’re making love, as it certainly won’t help the bins take themselves out. Instead, put your worries aside for later in order to let go and enjoy the feeling of your partner’s hands on you… That’s pleasure.